I'm seriously late to the party, I know. But pretty much all women have fended off unwanted advances from a man at some point, be it verbal or physical. We're taught to assume that anything out of the ordinary is dangerous. Clearly the woman was triggered by something in that situation and she took the steps she felt necessary to keep herself safe. I expect it must be upsetting for men when women automatically assume they're dangerous, but that's pretty much how our world works.
Ugly in there...
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Ya, thanks for the perspective, HM.
What I still shake my head at is that the site was wide open, there were 3 other people in line of sight and I was farther away than 2 of them and was easily 100 feet away from her when she yelled at me. I suspect it might have been that I looked so different from the fishing guys.
What I still shake my head at is that the site was wide open, there were 3 other people in line of sight and I was farther away than 2 of them and was easily 100 feet away from her when she yelled at me. I suspect it might have been that I looked so different from the fishing guys.
It's the fish head Joe, it puts people off.
Seriously, I always give women a wide berth, to help put them at ease, but in your case it seems she overreacted, given the context.
Just this morning I was walking towards the river path, in the dim predawn street-lighting, having just parked my car on a side street perpendicular to the river parkway, when I saw a woman with a dog coming up the path at a speed and distance that would make her intersect with my arrival at the path. So I began my run before I got on the path, still on the road, to get ahead of her by the time I was on the path, and then ran slightly faster than I normally would to warm up, to put some distance between us. Even though she had a dog, I didn't want to cause her any undue distress. It was in the mid-30s, but the windchill was 23, she was bundled up, and I was barefoot and lightly dressed, so I might've appeared a bit creepy or suspicious or perhaps just crazy.
Yeah, I saw that too. I don't usually get peeved if someone says "Hi", or "Have a good day!", but I wonder why they aren't saying the same thing to other people around me. I mean, if men are just trying to be friendly, then they wouldn't single me out. Men who say I'm looking beautiful, skip it. It's not a compliment, it freaks me out a little. Men who jump up and walk alongside me or attempt to block my path so that I have to stop and talk to them are just asking for pepper spray, and they're the reason I don't run at lunch any more. I know people get robbed and raped within a few blocks of my workplace on a regular basis. I'm automatically on guard any time I leave my lab, and it's not right.
Does anyone recognise any of these problems in the UK? If so, where. I can't say I've ever experienced anything like this
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I'm aware of the generic problem Sid. My question was really related to lone women feeling threatened by lone male runners (barefoot or shod) or vice versa where men feel they may appear threatening and take evasive actions.
Like I said, I can't say I've experienced any of this.
I have been known to get the occasional wolf whistle from a group of teenage girls around town though
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